Guide to using a VPN

I didn’t make this myself, but I thought it would be useful to those of you who haven’t set up a VPN for your online work. vpn

Becoming an Adult Services Seller on Reddit

Looking into selling Skype shows, panties, videos, Kik sessions and more on Reddit? I recently made a video to help get you started! If you’re more of a reader than a watcher, you can also find all the info you need under the video in this blog post.

First: What is Reddit?

Reddit is a giant forum website, self-titled “The front page of the internet”. It consists of what we call subreddits (or subs for short), which are individual forums that each have their own theme or purpose. For example, /r/cats is about cats. There, you can talk about and post pictures of, well, cats. If you go to /r/WTF, you will be able to view and submit things that make people go, “What the fuck?!”

Each sub has their own team of moderators (mods) dedicated to keeping things running smoothly. Lucky for us, there are also subreddits made for adult industry buyers and sellers to seek and offer anything from videos to Skype shows to Kik sessions to dirty socks. More on that later, though!

When working towards becoming a seller/performer on Reddit, there are two things you need to be mindful of: It takes time, and it takes effort.

I cannot stress these things enough. I’ve seen a lot of people shoot themselves in the foot trying to rush into selling without taking the time to learn anything about it. Don’t do that! Selling on Reddit is actually relatively easy – you just need to do the ground work. With that in mind, here are some basic first steps you can take on your way to becoming a seller on Reddit!


Make an account with the username you wish to use as a seller, and use it. Then, learn how Reddit works. Seriously.

Follow subreddits for things that interest you outside of selling. There’s a subreddit for everything, from makeup to rock climbing to cooking to your favorite TV shows. You’re bound to find at least a few that you like! You can even browse the default subreddits that Reddit automatically subscribes you to when you join.

The point here is for you to get familiar with the website as a whole. Not only does it make you look better if you know how to properly navigate the site, but it makes the lives of the selling subreddit moderators and buyers much easier when you start dealing with them.

As you start browsing, commenting and posting on Reddit, please be mindful of what kind of information you share. If you don’t want people to know where you live, I recommend not subscribing to or posting in location-specific subreddits (eg. a sub for your city). Your post history is publicly visible (private messages are not), so don’t post anything you’re not comfortable with potential buyers seeing.

Learning how to use Reddit also means learning how to use Imgur, since it’s one of the main methods people use to post pictures to Reddit. Reddit has also introduced their own image hosting system, though I’m not sure if it’s available to everyone yet. If you want to make and host gifs (animated images), check out Gfycat.


A couple great subreddits for you to check out are /r/SellerCircleStage, which is public, and /r/SellerCircle, a private sub you can request access to once you become a seller.

/r/SellerCircleStage includes a fantastic Wiki, written completely by sellers. It is a VERY useful resource that I highly encourage you to take advantage of. Seasoned sellers dedicate a lot of time and energy to filling the subs’ wiki pages with relevant information, and we’re also very diligent in answering valid questions posted to our subreddits.

With that in mind, If you can’t find the answer to your question in our wiki, please use the Reddit search function to see if your question has been asked/answered before. If by chance you absolutely cannot find the answer to your question in both the Wiki and the subs’ post history, you’re welcome to make a post asking fellow sellers for help.


This step can be done at any time once you’ve familiarized yourself with Reddit, really. Some people start doing this before they become verified sellers. Some people don’t do this at all. It’s more of an optional thing, though many of us find it provides a great boost in business.

The way to get your name out there is by posting teasers in non-selling adult subs. For example, if you have a fantastic ass, you may consider posting in the allaboutbutts subreddit. If you are a girl who wears glasses, perhaps you’d consider posting in girlswithglasses. There are a ton of adult subreddits out there catering to tons of body types, kinks and niches.

The trick here is that you are not posting in these subs to sell – So don’t bother listing prices or even mentioning that you are or plan to be a seller. They are meant to promote your work, though, and can still bring you business:

Say someone sees your picture in one of these non-selling subs and PMs you to say, “Oh my god, you’re so beautiful! Can we chat?” THAT’S when you say, “Well, hey, I’d be happy to! Why don’t we set up a Skype/Kik session?”

Of course, not everyone who messages you will be looking to spend money. That’s the nature of the beast, though. If they say no thanks to a paid session, just say no problem and wish them well.


Now that you’re familiar with Reddit, have built up your post history and done some preliminary research, it’s time to verify yourself on some selling subreddits. This means you need to prove to the subreddit moderators that you are who you claim to be. We do this to minimize the risk of letting in fakes who are just out to take people’s money and run.

Each subreddit has their own verification requirements, many of which involve your account being of a certain age. Remember when I said this takes time? No sense trying to rush. Luckily, the time you’ve spent following steps one, two and three should be more than enough to keep you occupied until you’re ready to verify.

Before you verify, read the subreddits’ rules. So many people get turned away during the verification process simply because they didn’t bother finding out what the sub’s requirements were for verifying. Some new sellers and performers later get kicked out of subreddits that they have been verified in for making posts that do not adhere to sub posting rules.


Mistakes happen sometimes, sure. Maybe you accidentally forgot a required piece of information in your post. Maybe you got your subreddits mixed up and accidentally advertised Skype Shows in the sexting subreddit. I don’t know of any subreddit that will automatically ban a seller for a small, one time mistake – But if you get banned, that means you were repeatedly breaking rules and repeatedly being given warnings that you chose to do nothing about. I have no sympathy for people like that.


This is another optional step which can be done at any time once you meet Reddit’s minimum requirements. Your own subreddit is a great place to share your free content, keep fans and clients in the know about your schedule, provide information on all of your services in one place, etc. If you want an example, my subreddit is www/ Feel free to check it out!

I hope you find this info useful! Go to my Camspace page for more info and resources on working in the online adult entertainment industry! xo

Blackmail vs. Blackmail Fantasy

I feel like this is a topic that time and time again I have had to explain to prospective clients who are seeking a blackmail experience, as well as new camgirls/Dommes who are learning about providing such a service. It’s a very simple road to navigate as long as it is done properly, but too often I see people putting themselves at risk for the sake of the thrill.

Blackmail fantasy is a very popular form of domination that I engage in on a regular basis. It is a situation in which an individual willingly provides me with personal photos or information which I then “threaten” to expose/use against them if they do not pay me/fuck themselves in the ass/send more compromising photos, etc. The specifics of each situation are tailored to the desires of the individual requesting such a session. Some people get off on the thrill of having compromising photos posted on Twitter, which are only removed once they complete a humiliating task. Others may want to be “forced” to provide a weekly tribute, with the promise that I will email their secrets to their wife or boss if they miss a payment.

The important thing to note here is that everything I do that relates to blackmail is done consensually, as part of the other person’s fantasy – Hence the term blackmail fantasy, which separates it from actual blackmail. It is essentially a form of role play – And just like any safe, consensual role play, if at any time during the fantasy the safe word gets used, the session stops. I would never truly force anyone to provide a weekly tribute, nor would I actually email anything compromising to anyone in their life. True subs follow through with their tasks and tributes out of their desire to keep the fantasy alive. The fun is in acting like I’m in charge, but truly, anything provided to me (gifts, money, information) is provided willingly, and anything compromising (secrets, pics) is kept only for reference in future sessions (“Remember when you told me about ______ last week? Imagine what would happen if I told your wife…”).

Unfortunately, choosing the safe and responsible route can come at a price for Dommes such as myself. On more than one occasion, I have had blackmail slaves and finsubs turn me away as a prospective Domme due to my use of the term “fantasy” in reference to blackmail sessions. They claim to only want the “real deal”. This is an issue for multiple reasons:

1. Chances are, if you’re asking for it, it’s not real. The whole concept of real blackmail does not involve asking to have it done to you, nor does it involve your consent or ability to stop it in any way whatsoever. This doesn’t mean it can’t turn into something real, though. I have seen the aftermath of individuals who adamantly claimed they wanted their lives to be completely destroyed by blackmail connecting with people who had no issue in actually doing so. I have never once seen the individual who asked for it not end up regretting the fact that things went that far, though. What most people seem to want is to call it real, while still actually having it be a fantasy, since calling it a fantasy can, for many, ruin the vibe. You know what, though? That’s kind of too bad, considering…

2. Real blackmail is illegal, and engaging in a blackmail session without proof that it has been acknowledged as a fantasy only by both parties leaves us liable. Anyone who offers “genuine” blackmail sessions puts themselves at risk for a lawsuit simply by stating that it is something they’ll do. After all, claiming to offer actual blackmail is admitting to a major felony. It is important for those of us “blackmailing” the individuals who ask us to do so to make it clear that it is a fantasy for this reason. No one wants to get slapped with a lawsuit because the person they “blackmailed” decided they later regretted the experience and wanted to shift the blame to the person they asked to do it.

I understand that when it comes to many fetishes, a need to intensify overtime is common. You become desensitized, so you dive into something a little crazier, or a little more dangerous. However, that does not mean you should ever expect a proper Domme to risk their own personal safety and reputation for your fetish.

To combat the fact that handling blackmail fantasies responsibly can “dull” things, I tend to work through all of the legal precautions – Proof of consent, boundaries & limitations, safe word, etc. – prior to/separately from the role play itself. Yes, I get it – It still doesn’t sound as sexy as simply diving into things and forcing someone to hand over their money/freedom/secrets etc., but as least it creates a barrier between the responsibilities of both parties to handle the fantasy in a manner that will not result in any unwanted emotional/physical/legal repercussions, and the time spent enjoying the fantasy.

Blackmail fantasy is an easy road to navigate, as long as it’s done right. Never sacrifice your safety for the thrill – It’s not worth it.

Gift Card Fees

It has been brought to my attention, both through personal experiences and through the shared stories of other sellers, that gift card fees are something that some buyers are struggling to understand, accept, and in some cases, respect.

I would like to take a moment to try to explain things so that perhaps this can stop being an issue. Please note that this is intended to educate and inform – not insult.

Convenience has a pricetag – Often because your convenience comes at someone else’s cost. When you realize you need cash, and the ATM down the street is closer to you than your bank machine, you pay an ATM fee for the convenience – Or, you forego the convenience and its fee to go further away to get your money. When you do pay the fee, it helps pay for the machine, its maintenance, and the time people dedicate to filling it, fixing it, and making it available for you to use. Contrary to the popular and rather self-righteous phrase, you are not simply “buying your own money”. You are paying for the convenience of being able to access it outside of your bank’s locations.

Convenience is not a right, it is a luxury, and it is one that comes at a price – A price most people are willing to pay without complaint, since they know that without that cost, the convenience would not exist.

Amazon and other gift cards are a convenient form of payment in this industry – They’re fast, they’re easy to send, and if you’re trying to hide the fact that you’re buying adult services by avoiding charges to the credit card you share with your wife, they’re also a safe option (especially when purchasing through with your PayPal account).

This is all fine and dandy, and many of us are happy to offer such a convenience to you. What we would like is for you to understand that by offering this to you, it is coming at a cost to us, and for many of us, it is not a cost worth bearing, which is why we require additional compensation. After all, our prices are based on the value of our work – So if we’re not receiving what our prices reflect at the end of the day due to the cost that your convenience comes at, then we’re kind of ripping ourselves off.

The fact that we accept gift cards at all is something I feel a lot of people take for granted – After all, how would you feel if your job paid you in gift cards? I doubt anyone would prefer that over cash.

There are a few reasons that I personally charge a fee for gift cards, and while I am speaking for myself here, I can assure you that I am not the only one who feels this way.

Gift cards do not have an exact cash value. Just because you give someone a $50 gift card, doesn’t mean you’re giving them $50. You’re paying $50, but at the end of the day, the person on the other end is not always receiving that amount. Here’s a couple reasons why:

– When we have to decide between spending a gift card or spending cash on an item, the gift card will often win, since cash is reserved for things that gift cards cannot pay for, such as bills and groceries. That means that we are stuck paying shipping on something that we perhaps would have purchased in-store, had we had all cash and no gift cards at all. Perhaps we would have used the cash to pay for the same item on a different website (that we may not be able to accept gift cards for) for a lower price. This is especially a problem for international sellers. As a Canadian who primarily receives gift cards, the shipping fees I often face are brutal. Even when I receive gift cards, shipping still sucks unless the item is covered by Amazon Prime (which is something I never would have paid for if it hadn’t been for the fact that I accept gift cards). Because of the limitations gift cards place on our ability to spend them, we lose a chunk of our earnings on otherwise avoidable costs, as well as the freedom to spend those earnings freely – For your convenience.

– When cash is needed, we trade our gift cards for Bitcoin, Squarecash, Giftrocket, E-transfers, etc. This is not something we receive exact cash value for. In order for it to be worth it for someone to take our gift cards, they’ve got to get a deal on it – Which means money out of our pocket. The money we lose by converting gift cards to cash, combined with the additional time we spend arranging those transactions, means a big loss for us – For your convenience.

Many of you might say, “Then don’t accept gift cards!”. Sure. We’ve done that. But many of us have lost more sales by not accepting gift cards at all, than we have by charging a fee – And many of you have chosen only to pay with gift cards, which means that if we don’t accept them, you’ve got a much smaller selection of people to play with and purchase from.

If you insist on paying via gift card, please check to see if there is a fee prior to discussing your transaction with a seller, and be ready to accept the fact that there likely will be one. Most of us are very upfront about our fees, and often have them mentioned on our websites, in our ads, and on our subreddits. If you can’t find the information listed anywhere, ask about it before diving into the details of your request. This saves both of us from wasting time by discussing all of the nitty gritty, only for you to back out the moment the total is calculated.

If you cannot find a seller you like who doesn’t charge a gift card fee, and the fee is still totally unacceptable to you, please consider using other payment methods. Bitcoin is a huge favourite for many sellers, and once the initial set-up has been completed, is extremely simple to use. It is also a very fast and secure payment method that allows you to connect to a credit card OR bank account. This payment method allows the same convenience and ease as gift cards, is internationally usable, and does not come at a cost to the person you’re paying. Bitcoin may charge for the transaction, but that cost is typically $1 or less.

If a seller charges a fee for gift cards, please understand that it is for a reason. Asking a seller to waive the fee simply because you do not like it, essentially says “I want you to pay for my convenience”, whether that is your intention or not. Insisting on using a gift card while refusing to pay a fee shows a lack of respect for the value of our time. If you do not want to pay a fee, find sellers that don’t charge them, and use payment methods that do not require them.

For more information on payment methods that I personally accept, please check out my Payment Options page. I have written up short descriptions of each available payment method, and have provided useful links for you to follow, should you choose to learn more about them.

Expanding payment options for Canadian sellers/performers

So, a lot of payment options for Canadians kind of suck.

I don’t know if this is something everyone is already aware of and I’m just slow to jump on the wagon for, but I have seen plenty of talk regarding payment methods for Canadians, and I thought I’d provide a potential solution to our woes. I really wish I had thought of this sooner!

As a Canadian, my only option for receiving my earnings from certain cam/clip sites is by snail mail. Last month, my biggest check of the month failed to show up in my mailbox. I was later told that it was returned to sender, because apparently my address wasn’t up to date. The same address they’ve been sending my checks to every month for the past year. Talk about a shitty situation!

I hate snail mail paychecks with a burning passion. I hate the long wait times. I hate the uncertainty. I hate the fact that if a check fails to show up, I have to pay the cancellation fee before they send a new one.

I decided to look into getting an American bank account. Not just American currency, but one that’s actually set up in the US. After a couple quick Google searches, I found that there were indeed banks in Canada that provided that option (TD and RBC – RBC being the better choice, in my opinion).

What happens next is really quite simple:

Through RBC, I set up a couple new accounts, and now this is what I’m looking at:

US chequing account – $4 monthly fee (includes 6 free transactions) Be sure to emphasize the fact that you want a bank account set up in the US, and not just a Canadian account in US dollars. The gentlemen who helped me get set up made the mistake of giving me a USD bank account, so I ended up registering for my American account over the phone

CAD chequing account – $4 monthly fee (includes 12 free transactions)

I can get most of my previously snail-mailed checks direct deposited/ACH transferred into my US bank account, then transfer it to my Canadian bank account via online banking at absolutely no cost.

Bonus: If the exchange rate is shit, I can let the cash sit in my US account until it’s a good time to transfer it to CAD.

Although I don’t know much about US-exclusive direct payment methods (I only use Giftrocket, Bitcoin, and Interac E-Transfer at this point in time), I also like knowing that this could quite possibly open me up to new direct payment methods as well.

The following sites will allow me as a Canadian citizen to receive payments via ACH transfer into my American bank account:


The following sites will not allow the aforementioned, as I am not a resident of the US and do not have a social security number:
They do, however, offer wire transfers for a stupid fee. Guess I’ll stick with snail mail for these guys.


All other sites that I currently run on luckily offer international sellers/performers the opportunity to receive paychecks via Payoneer or some other equally convenient, non-snail-mail method.